"It's not a very good idea to win an argument with your wife. That isn't what you want, because then you have a defeated partner. And a defeated partner is not happy. And a defeated partner is often out to reclaim the defeat. And so as a strategy for moving forward with someone who you're going to wake up beside 5,000 times it's not a very advisable strategy. It's better to listen, to flesh out the argument on both sides, and see if you can come to a mutually acceptable negotiated settlement."